Does living with no expectation really make you happier?

Does living with no expectation really make you happier?

I am a doer, I’m a maker, creator and a shaker.

I have been trying to control my environment with the use of the Law of Attraction.

Has this unknowingly been making me upset though?

I have felt really up and down for the last 2 x months.

I have gone really high, but more so sat very low.

Have I put expectations on an environment that perhaps I cannot/should not totally control?

Yesterday, I was reminded of the idea that…

Life is happening for me…

NOT TO ME.

Let me say that again, life is not happening to me, it is happening FOR me 😊.

“Ahhh, feeling better”.

I am a teacher, I am a lover, I am a helper, I am an uplifter.

That is my ecstasy.

Helping others with my advice.

That is why I was put here, that is my purpose.

I absolutely LOVE helping people with problems 😊 .

I need to accept that I have been sent into a dark world so that I can become more skilled at performing my passion.

I am in training.

Life is actually happening for me.

No more expectations.

Let life happen.

Accept everything and find the good in it.

How can I help someone in a dark place if I have never been there before?

How?

How can an electrician teach an apprentice the know how about electricity if they have never worked with electricity themselves?

Life is happening for me and I feel good about it.

 

If anyone is on the same playing field as me, here is the Tony Robbins video that has taught me so much and pulled me out of my resistant funk.

Oh and don’t forget to go after your passion.

As soon as I realised I was being challenged so that I could get better at helping people I immediately began answering people’s self-help questions on Quora.

AND GOD DID I FEEL GOOD.

Back where I belong – uplifting.

Hello old friend 😊

Love you all.

Jordan

Momentum

Momentum is possibly the most underestimated facet in regard to self-help.
 
People don’t realise the power of momentum.
 
Hell, I didn’t realise the power of momentum until recently.
 
Momentum can build you up and it can also break you down.
 
You definitely have to respect momentum and if you want to get to the places you want to be you need to learn how to use it.
 
If I’m down I use momentum to bring me back up.
 
If I’m super low I start real low.
 
Easy little pieces of momentum.
 
Little pieces that aren’t pushy and don’t exhaust.
 
Little pieces that don’t feel tiring.
 
Such as the thought…
 
“I don’t have to figure this all out right now”.
 
Super light. Super easy. Non-subjective. Non-pushy.
 
Nice and easy.
 
That small feeling of relief you can create with a single low-lying thought will attract more positive thoughts.
 
It is law, it is law of attraction.
 
You can try it yourself.
 
Think of something you love.
 
And watch how a lot of other positive thoughts will start to arise and flock about your mind.
 
Positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative.
 
One easy low-lying thought of momentum can really start to get the car rolling down hill, instead of the car trying to roll up hill.
 
Sometimes a low-lying thought can be too hard to reach because you are just too low.
 
In times like this.
 
Be quiet.
 
Stop thinking.
 
Try to focus and be in the moment of what you are doing.
 
Or go for a nap.
 
A nap will slow momentum.
 
Sleep is good for you when you feel stressed.
 
It will reset your clock.
 
You are not lazy for sleeping.
 
You are strategic because you know that if you are to perform you need to be in the right state of mind.
 
And sometimes sleep can help get you there.
 
Everything flows easy when you are easy.
 
Use momentum.
 
Start low and work your way up.
 
If it feels hard, don’t do it.
 
If it feels easy and light go with it.
 
Start low and keep going.
 
Sooner or later you will be high.
 
Sky high.
 
😊

The Importance of Staying Present

Yesterday I was reminded of the importance of staying in the moment.

I think I had been spending a lot of time with the voice in my head.

Too much time.

Today I want you to try staying in the moment.

Feel the seat on your ass, your feet on the floor, the wind brush your face, the touch of your hand to your internet device.

There is no fear or regret when you are in the moment.

It is impossible to feel fear of the future and regret of the past when you are in the moment.

Try to keep the voice in your head quiet and be like a dog.

You don’t see your dog worrying to much do you?

The dog is always present.

Always.

The dog lives in the moment and totally drinks in all experience, like most (if not all) other animals.

Meditation can help with this practice.

Try meditation today if you have not done it before.

5 minutes of quiet time listening and feeling the in-and-out flow of your breath with your eyes closed.

If you lose your focus, go back to breath.

Do not get angry if you lose focus, you may have never tried this before, go back to the breath and try to quite your mind.

Know that losing focus, IS a part of meditation and that each time you regain focus, you increase your ability to stay mindful of your thoughts.

There are gyms for lifting weights and there are gyms for strengthening your mind.

This is one of them.

Be quiet and just feel today.

PS. Here is the podcast I listened to yesterday that reminded me the importance of staying present. IT HAS GREAT INCITE IF YOU ARE NEW TO MEDITATION.

http://lewishowes.com/podcast/dan-harris/ (Can be found on iTunes podcast and Sticher for Android).

PPS. IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS ABOUT MEDIATION, “am I doing this right?”, do not hesitate to comment below and I will get back to you, if you are very stuck, we can Skype.

I Told The Lady From The Depression Helpline…

I told the lady from the depression helpline that “I prefer to do things out of inspiration, not motivation”.

She replied saying “So, you like to do things you want to do and you don’t like to do things you don’t want to do?”.

I said “Well… yes”.

Then I said, “But I feel so lethargic. I feel so exhausted to pick myself up even though I know I need to do some things to make myself feel better. Should I do them?”

She said… “This is a characteristic of depression, feeling exhausted, you just have to push through what’s hard in order to feel better”.

I took her advice.

I got up.

I put my training gear on and went out and started beating the shit out of my heavy bag.

I felt better.

The momentum had begun to shift the other way.

As Law of Attraction channeller Abrahm-Hick’s teaches: Feeling good is momentum based.

If you’re feeling blue you have to try and slow the ball of momentum down, bring it to a halt and try to get it rolling the other way, downhill, towards feeling good.

Start small and build that momentum up.

Here is the route I took in order to start getting my internal ball to roll towards happiness:

1. I got out of bed and started exercising (I know this always makes me feel better. I made it a priority that I would commit to at least 30 minutes of training even though I didn’t feel like training for that long).

2. I started saying positive affirmations in my head to myself every so often.

“I can do this.”

“I feel better.”

“I want to feel better.”

3. I started mediating in the morning again (15 mins).

4. I started visualising the things I wanted to allow to come into my life through a meditative state in the morning again (5 mins).

5. I cleaned up my room. (I feel cleaner on the inside and overall better when my room is clean and tidy).

6. I started writing a nightly to do list for the next day and sent it off to my girlfriend, so that she could act as my accountability partner.

Here is the to do list I sent to her from day 2 of Operation Momentum Reversal:

a. Get up after 8.5 hours of sleep.

b. Meditate.

c. Find the best course for you (5 min).

(I’ve been looking into counselling courses lately, as I think this is a career I may be interested in. I set the timer for 5 minutes knowing full well that I would not be overwhelmed by it and that I would end up researching for longer).

d. Walk Riley (My dog, that is a Schnoodle).

e. Study something that will help me in my life for 30 minutes.

f. Visualise 5 min.

g. Start my 3 minute repeat timer on my phone to jolt me with an alarm every 3 minutes to remind me to watch my thoughts and reconsider what I may be thinking at that point in time. Here’s the app I use: Repeat Timer Pro.

POSITIVE THOUGHTS ONLY. AS POSITIVE ATTRACTS MORE POSITIVE.

This is a great mindfulness technique.

As you can see I tried to keep this to do list pretty simple and not too teasing, as I wanted to start the shift in momentum by keeping things light at first and building upon that.

Now it’s day 4 since releasing myself from this funk and I am now feeling much, much better and much more inside the vortex aka. feeling good.

In short, my learning from this challenge and my advice to YOU is that sometimes you HAVE to do the hard stuff in order to get yourself closer to happiness and to start feeling good again.

It is nice to be feeling good again.

Thank-you.

– Jordan